Just the other day, I was watching one of Grace Ajilore’s videos, which was basically mocking guys that suddenly want to have arguments, weeks before Valentine’s Day. Reason being, they don’t want to spend money on the day of love. Grace is hilarious and I love the way she addresses issues with humour. Anyway, on to today’s post.
Having lived in both a developing country and a developed one, many things stick out to me about the culture. One of them being; How holidays are highly commercialised. From Christmas to Valentine’s day, the list is endless. It is nearly the month when the town is painted red. Stores are already stocking up on all the heart-shaped chocolate boxes, gigantic teddy bears, large bouquets of roses and Valentine’s cards of course. Love it or hate it, we can’t run away from it because its literally in our face.
Now there is nothing wrong with this holiday of admiration and innocent love but for those that struggle with relationships, maybe getting over one, or are just enjoying their independence, Valentine’s Day can sometimes feel like it goes on for centuries. However, it is also around this time of the new month that young women are desperate to find that perfect Valentine’s Day date in order to make the day a little more bearable.
Be your own hero and rejoice in being the beautiful individual that you are. This is the year of you, so own it.
I get the fact that we all want to share the cute romantic gifts and fancy restaurants we go to on that day but is it worth chatting to a guy just to have someone around for Valentine’s Day? Trust me, I know it can be really hard to be single especially on that day of love. But, being single is not bad for anyone.
From the time I started dating, I have been alone on valentines a couple of times. I remember this one time when I had just broken up with the guy I was dating at that time. I made the decision to leave the relationship so I was fairly ok with being alone. In fact, that year, I took Valentine’s Day by the horns and embraced myself.
Take Valentine’s Day by the horns and embrace yourself…-Stephylately
Instead, of aimlessly scrolling through Tinder and Bumble, I would advise you to treat yourself, find yourself, do all the things that make you happy with being the amazing person you are. Go out to dinner, see a movie, plan a brunch, take a day trip to the spa. Do anything and everything that comes to mind. Valentine’s Day does not always have to be about sucking up to whoever you are dating at the time, but self-love. Self-love is just as, if not more, important than anything else. Besides, if you do not even fully love yourself, how are you supposed to love someone else first? Here is a post I wrote on self-care, it might be useful too.
With the new year upon us, embrace everything that you love about yourself this Valentine’s Day season. Forget about all the cheesy commercials and sappy love songs. Throw away the Ben&Jerry’s ice cream containers, unless you really want that ice cream. Just no more ideologies that Valentine’s Day for the single ladies is all about being miserable and lonely, just waiting for that special someone to swoop in and save the day. Be your own hero and rejoice in being the beautiful individual you are. This is the year of you, so own it.
Do you care that much about celebrating Valentine’s Day?