4 Things To Remember When You Think You’re Not Good Enough


We all have bad days every now and then, when everything goes wrong, nothing seems to go your way and you are just not feeling good enough. It is on those down days when you feel like you don’t deserve anything and most likely you can’t be bothered with loving yourself  in that moment. Some people are lucky to not have those days. However, having experienced my fair share of down moments, I thought I might share some tips on what gets me back onto the straight path when my thoughts and emotions get the most of me. Be rest assured this ain’t the gospel truth but simply tips that have worked on me and hopefully would work on you too if you are currently reading this and not feeling great at the moment.

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1.Make a decision to stop feeling terrible

It all starts with your mindset really. You need to stop dwelling on the negativity surrounding the reason behind you feeling down. It takes the mindset to believe that you are worthy of the challenge and in so being good enough to work through the situation, whatever it may be. By doing so, you empower yourself to continue on wards.

2.Write down your gratitude List

This should include all the things that you consider as blessings in your life. It is easy to forget all that is actually good in your life and focus on whats not. However, call it reverse psychology, when you actually jot down the things you are grateful for, you realize that life ain’t that bad after all. Listen, if you have good health, a roof over your head, family, a good job…surely you are one lucky person. So the next time the negative thoughts bringing you down, fight them with good thoughts.

3. Accept What is and move on

Yes I know that’s easier said than done and trust me it won’t all go away in one day but baby steps will get you there. Personally, my faith(prayer) helps me a lot in accepting things that don’t go my way in life. I strongly believe that if God brought you to it, he will bring you through it. So, I cast all my burdens and worries into his hands because I know God loves me and has my back. Once you accept, its easier to move on from whatever is making you feel down.

4. Be Gentle With Yourself

If there is one thing, that I would strongly advise is to certainly be kind to yourself. If you, yourself can’t be nice to yourself, then how do you expect others to be kind to you. The secret is to value yourself as much as,but no more than, you do others. No one is perfect, so accept your flaws and focus on the more positive aspects of your life. Look at yourself in the mirror. The person you are staring at has the power to either build or break you. Do something that will make you feel special in the midst of you feeling down. Run yourself a bubble bath perhaps, something to relax your mind or go on a mini shopping spree, get yourself a new hairstyle or cook yourself a favorite dish. There are plenty of ways to uplift your mood. Exercise self-love most importantly and I assure you that in doing so, you will soon snap out of that horrible low moment. It takes practice but it is feasible.

Hope these tips helps someone out there thinking they are not good enough. Now go out there and kick the negative feelings to the curb. You are good enough and never let anybody tell you otherwise.

Before I conclude today’s post, I wanted to address my outfit of the day. I know we are now transitioning into Autumn and its getting darker quiet early, I feel I will be leaning towards darker shades of clothes but hopefully still maintaining some hint of color rather than a dull dark outfit – Nothing against people that choose to dress like that. Its just not my style. I went for this Gingham  Balloon wrap tie top(which was quiet trendy in Spring) paired with skinny jeans and a bright red clutch. This look is perfect for date night or drinks with the girls, plus the balloon shoulders will definitely keep you warm as it is getting chilly at night.

  • Omolade Ibikunle

    All valid points. Thanks Steph

  • Favour

    I love the number 3 and 4. Most times we forget to accept and move on. I know there are times when I’m too hard on myself and I end up being disappointed and angry. Good tips, and remember to listen to some music, nice gospel, something happy.


    • Hi Favour, Thank you for the fab feedback. Acceptance is the step in the right direction I believe.

  • Leaning on God in times of confusion is always so comforting and it feels good to know that He is always there. Love all your tips Stephy, cute outfit. xx
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    • Hey Demilade. Thank you for stopping by my blog. Its lovely to hear some great feedback . I tend to listen to gospel music too . My current artist at the moment being Travis Greene.